Review: Curtains, Adventures of an undertaker in training by Tom Jokinen
Posted by elena | Posted in Reviews | Posted on 30-08-2010
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The first thing I thought when I read the blurb for this book was “zomg it’s like Six Feet Under but in real life!” And, like most of my ‘zomg’ reactions (which I’m working on culling, I swear), it was a complete over-generalisation. There are two commonalities: It’s about the life of an undertaker, and it’s filled with borderline inappropriate black humour. Also, Canadian multimedia journalist and author Tom Jokinen wasn’t born into the business, as seems to be the trend for many traditional funeral homes. Rather, he decided to take a year off work to try his hand at an undertaker apprenticeship. So yes, actually quite different from that television show.
Under the guidance of funeral home owner Neil Bardal and the rest of the staff, Tom learns how to embalm a body, how to roll out a stretcher without dropping the body (or rather, how not to roll them out), and how to comfort grieving families while maintaining a safe, professional distance.
It’s not so much what Tom learns in practical terms. The thing that kept me reading was the way he processes it all along the way. Besides, can you really learn, in less than a year, how to maintain that delicate balance of tact and compassion for complete strangers? (I think I’d have more trouble with that than the embalming, to be honest.)
This memoir could have been a completely internal, personal story about one man facing his fears/questions/etc. about death, without any great significance to Joe Reader. But Curtains becomes more than a memoir. It becomes a response to sociological and philosophical commentary on the ritual of death in the western world, in particular, Jessica Mitford’s controversial 1963 book, The American Way of Death.
It also is an “insider’s” (well, he was only there for one year) investigation into the massive funeral trade, which is of course full of debates such as the pros and cons of cremation, pre-needs services (which probably means exactly what you think it means) and funeral trade shows in Vegas. Plus, of course, juicy economic tidbits for conspiracy theorists and their ilk.
But most interestingly, it’s an examination of the spirituality that is entrenched in saying goodbye to our loved ones.
“There’s enough latent Catholic in me to feel guilty about not being Catholic enough to know what it is…There’s a lesson for goyim in the hard-core Jewish ritual and it has something to do with community. In my world it’s possible to lose someone, spend two days in the embrace of family and friends and then wake up alone, staring at an empty crusted scalloped potato dish, with no clue what to do next. The Jews have a schedule you can pin to the fridge, and when you go to the synagogue people wouldn’t even know will sit with you and say Kaddish.” (p181)
The book moves slowly away from cadavers and funeral makeup and towards those big scary questions about the meaning of death and the structure and comfort that ritual and religion provide for the bereaved.
Curtains takes an honest, albeit strangely humorous look, at the ideal western funeral, and all its derivatives. For me, it was a chance to allow myself to think about one of those aspects of life I’ve never allowed myself to give much thought to (even when I’ve needed to). In his mid-forties, Jokinen is at that age when funeral companies, and life insurance companies, are putting the pressure on to plan for the future (*cue ominous music*). I’m in my early twenties, and like most people in my generation, I believe I’m invincible. Death has never really frightened me. But it’s something we all think about. And Curtains isn’t quite the level of humour of say, Six Feet Under, but it’s enough to be funny when it’s almost too wrong, and sombre, when the funny just won’t cut it.
Reading this, I wanted more. But that’s the problem with writing about funerals, and rituals for the dead. It’s a conversation that can last forever.
By the by, if you’re thinking of buying this (or, you know, any of the other books I’ve reviewed), can I suggest waiting until Wednesday? 1st September is Indigenous Literacy Day, where participating booksellers and publishers will donate at least 5 per cent of takings towards the Indigenous Literacy Project. The profits will go towards improving literacy levels for indigenous kids in remote Australia. So save your book shopping for Wednesday. Check out their website for more info, as well as photos from the fundraiser last week, where children’s illustrators donated their artworks, and Shaun Tan mixed his universes and pasteled up a gorgeous reading themed drawing live on stage for us.














